What you think, you become.
What you feel, you attract.
What you imagine, you create.
This post came towards me because of lots of self-reflection I was doing recently. And today it finally fruited into a new realisation about myself, which was again a proof of the strong connection between our thoughts and the impact on the outside world.
But let me start at the beginning…
As already mentioned in the last post about staying motivated in difficult situations, the mind is a powerful weapon, which can create a lot of drive, power and inner strength. Since the brain cannot distinguish fact and thought, we can use it to create positive images with the help of visualisation to achieve our goals.
But unfortunately, there is also a huge flip-side of this characteristic of our brain… The moment we start feeding it with negative thoughts about ourselves, we create a very strong momentum, which can also lead to a negative conversation inside us, which spreads to the external world.
The Power of Self-fulfilling Prophecies
One thought is enough to initiate a process in us or start a new idea in the external world. All you need is simply one spark! Let me be the example to show you how thoughts influence our outside worlds.
"I am too young and don't have the life experience like others do. What do I even know about life?! My opinion/emotions/thoughts/whatever don't have that much value like other people's."
This chain of thoughts is unfortunately something, which sits extremely deep inside me. It is anchored in my mind already for a long time and usually I was taking it as a fact (an excellent display of the brain doing his job!). I cannot say, where it comes from. Maybe it was just someone having a bad day, who told me in my young age that “I am too clever for my own good”. Who knows? It does not matter, WHERE it comes from. What matters is that it IS THERE!
How is this influencing me? Well, this lead me into the strong belief that because of my missing experience, because of my young age my thoughts are maybe not mature enough and not worthy to be shared to the outside world. That the imagination I have of how things should be, how my work should look like, how relationships and emotions should be like, are not worthy to be lived. It sounds so silly, I know, but that’s how it looks like in me.
Here are some other typical examples, which you can maybe relate to…
- I am not good enough.
- I am a bad friend/partner/colleague.
- I better keep my opinion to myself since no one wants to hear it.
- I will never be able to do that.
These are just short and simple sentences. Did they resonate with you?
The point is that these thoughts turn into beliefs, which in the end will influence our behaviour. And that is where the self-fulfilling prophecy starts to get its movement from…
You want to break a bad habit, which is just harming you, but every time you think of tackling it you also think how hard it is and that you never will be able to do that. Do you think that this will support you..?
You get the chance to prove yourself at work with an important task or to start something new and innovative but you withhold yourself because you think your idea is not good enough or silly. I guess you can clearly imagine the impact of this thought on the situation…?
You think you are a bad partner and that you are not able to live fulfilling relationships, always ending up by ruining them? Well, guess what will happen, when you think that all the time…?
I think everyone of us can relate to at least one of these scenarios. By that I simply want to outline how deep the impact of our thoughts on our outside world is. Since our brain will gladly take these negative thoughts as facts, our subconscious mind will process them, keep them in storage and by that eventually direct our decisions, our reactions and behaviour. When you find yourself feeling uncomfortable, overwhelmed or somehow strange in a situation, stop and observe what background theme your thoughts have. Reflect and detect! Become your own guide by sensing negative self-talk. Write it down and try to understand, where it comes from in order to work on it. If you have detected such a pattern, be kind to yourself and re-formulate the negative thought into a positive affirmation. Yes, you are WORTHY enough to do that. No one needs to humiliate himself! You are as valuable and worthy to receive your own kindness as any other human being ❤ …
Change your thoughts and you change your world.
– Norman Vincent Peale